Where there is a will, there is a way.
Everyone may have their own opinion about this issue. But my answer is always No. And I have my own reasons for not doing so.
First, using money to help you apply for a job easier is considered as an act of bribery. In most countries, bribery is illegal and anyone who does it my receive a heavy fine or even legal accusation from law enforcement authorities. Sadly, it had become a normal custom in my country. Almost all of them get away unnoticed. What will this society become if everyone violate the law? I don’t have a strong sense of justice but it is still enough to know what is right or wrong. I strongly against any regulation violation and I hate bribery the most. That’s the reason why they won’t receive a single penny from me for a job offer.
Second, this huge amount of money could be a heavy financial burden for your parents if you are not from a wealthy family. You haven’t had a job yet, that means to get that money, you have to ask your parents. In most cases, they have to borrow from their relatives in order to fulfill your demand. Don’t you pity them? They devote their whole life to you. They have gone through many hardship to raise you. Now you plan to make them suffer more from the loan, don’t you? You may argue that parents won’t complain about that issue. For sure, they won’t. Have you ever known any pair of parents consistently tell their children how hard it is to turn them into fine adults as they are? As a human being, you should not be so cold-blooded.
Third, this custom can kill your active spirit. Your job was bought by money and it’s not something that can be sold easily when you get bored of. You paid a lot of money for something you can’t return for refund. That means you should not risk to lose your job. You would become afraid of changes. Your ideas may never be spoken out because it’s against your conservative boss. You’d like to change to another company because you want to challenge yourself but you don’t want to lose your investment in the old company. You are lucky if it turns out to be good but you would go to hell if this offer is not what you expected. In that case, you have to live with it. Suffering from job everyday is more horrible than any method of torture. I hope all of you out there won’t be in that circumstance.
I said “easily” because in my country, when you reach a certain rank, you can start selling the vacancies. That how this system works. Everyone desperately try to earn back the money they spent. That usually involves some illegal business.
I think there are more reason for not bribing to get job. And I don’t encourage anyone to do so. Why don’t you use that amount of money to start something by your own? I think you will find more happiness that way.
That concludes my opinion. I wish that this bad custom would be eliminated from my country in near future.
Goodbye and see you next time!
Not everyone can willingly invite their friends to visit his house. Neither do I. They have their own reasons for not to do so and I have mine, too.
Deep down inside, I feel it pretty happy when someone visits me. There is a chance that was just a diplomatic action, or it was out of pity; but I don’t care about it much. In anyway, their visit means that my existence is acknowledged. That thought always make me feel better.
But the reality is harsh. Due to some circumstance, I do not allow myself to invite them or them to have any idea of paying me visit. The reasons lie in my family’s attitude during and after their visit.
During any occasion, they become bossy while my friends are around. They think that my treat is insufficient; they always try to influence my decisions or to interfere with what I’m going to do. I have my own way of doing things; I’m a strong self-awareness person. Thus, I don’t like any other persons get in my way. No matter how they are closed to me.
After the visit, they started complaining and questioning me why I hadn’t done this, that; and advising me to do this and that. I don’t need their advice, so, who cares about it? No one is perfect and nothing he does can be perfect. Everything will be fine as long as it meets the goals. And the goal for any visit is to have fun together, or to show concern. Nobody joins a party to find out your mistake in preparation anyway.
More, if they find out some imperfection, they will turn them into a topic for joke at anytime in the future. What are they trying to do? Do they understand that they are insulting me when they’re making those kinds of joke? I don’t think they do. As a man with his own pride, I can’t accept or forgive that embarrassment.
Last but not least, my father is alcoholic. When he’s drunk, he can’t control himself from rude conversation and violence. He would start taunting, spitting, throwing objects. I don’t think anyone as a son could stand that scene. Neither do I.
Because of those reasons, I will never ever invite anyone to visit my family again.
Have you ever watch that anime series? If your answer is “No”, my advice is you should watch it and try to stick with it until the end. I guarantee you that it is a good series despite of getting low scores which it does not deserve on many criticism sites. The story and the plot is a bit odd but not indigestible. It has its own charm and you will be attracted to it right away.
The plot is the stories about a female character; she acts as an UN mediator and does the research on fairies – a new human race that are responsible for many strange incidents. Besides, this series also provide a humorous view from future human race about our current civilization.
What I like best about this anime is the main character. She is a good example for “Don’t judge the book by its cover”. She has a naïve, attractive face, her figure is nice, and she has wonderful breast under her old-fashion clothes. Despite her look, she is very clever. She usually considers what the best response is for each situation she is in, though thing did not always go as she planned. She knows a lot, she studies hard to achieve her goal. She also can control other people well but mainly for covering her mistake. But she has a warm heart. She sympathizes with the other’s unspoken pains and tries to help them. Sometimes, it results her punishment. Finally, she doesn’t know how to tell a lie.
Fairies – new human race mentioned in this series, they are as tall as an apple, they love sweet, they like to have fun, they possess an incredible high technology but they are not keen to have the dominant position on Earth. They can built and empire in two days, then they can destroy it within minutes.
Other characters are Y – her friend since she was still at school, her grandfather also her supervisor, and her assistant – a strange boy that adopts her opinion to build up his personality.
Y is her first friend after several years since the day she had entered school, she had used to be lone wolf before she made friend with our girl. She is intelligent and attractive. She has an unconditioned love to the novels that are about boys are more than friends.
Assistant is her second friend. In order to meet him and take him back to her office, she was involved in a time loop incident, from which he learned and became a person who meets her expectation.
Her grandfather is also her boss. He’s smart and has many useful relations to powerful people. He has a collection of guns and spends a lot of time taking care of that. In my opinion, that man is quite cold to his granddaughter. He knows much about fairies because that is the subject that he’s studying, but all he did is giving her some vague warning that was unable to understand until some incident happened.
One last thing I want to say about this anime that I like the opening and ending songs. The opening gives you an impression of excitement with it fast rhythm, while the ending is gentle, soft and engraved on your mind a sad undistinguished feeling.
Thank you for your patience!
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For most of us, family means everything, they are people whom you love and care about. Family is the place where you can find the shelter, love and support. Family contains people who you can not live without them.
But, still there are many unlucky people who had to, have to, and will have to endure mental or physical (or both) pains caused by their own family. I am one of those unfortunate people who God forgot to bless.
I have drunken father who always yells and batters family members after drinking. He usually destroys our properties as well. This happened almost every two or three days. It was so frequent that I got used to it. Now, maybe he becomes old, or just because I rarely visit home, the frequency decreases. Beside that man, my family was also ruined by the mother who always has grudge against me. I received punishments from her so many times that I can not count or remember clearly. Finally, that is the sister that I can not get along with.
Family means to be sharing and understanding each other but it only means obedient in my family. The conversations were always one way. They said, I listen and do what they want. No comments, objections or reasons were accepted even if those were right and reasonable.
Everyone has the right to choose their own path that they want to follow but I didn’t. When I was a child, they didn’t let me to learn what I liked. They forced me to study subjects that they thought were the best for me. Then, after finishing secondary school, I had to apply for the school that I didn’t want to at all for the same reason. Naturally, I failed because I was not good enough but they blame me for months. After graduating from high school, I made up my mind that I would walk my own way from that moment. Once again, they planned to decide my future and I rejected it. They immediately showed their true faces. At first, they tried to build up a miserable future. After failing to do it themselves, they asked their relatives, their acquaintances to convey that ideas to me. Finally, they threatened me. I somehow managed to overcome the obstacles thanks to my determination but the relationship between me and my parents won’t be able to become normal again.
Being born in this family is the extremity misfortune. Because of that, I have allergy to any ideal family stories. I feel extremely uncomfortable whenever someone mentions about my family.
I wish they simply disappeared from my life.
Well, it’s been a long time since my last post that was 4 months ago. A lot of things happened. Some of them were very important to my life. Fortunately, despite of being good or bad, I managed to overcome them. Finally, I have my free time to write down some thoughts for the past year and for the coming year.
Though it’s a little bit late now. I still want to say that: “Happy new year, everyone!”. New year comes with new chances, I wish you all have happiness and joy in this year.
At the beginning of 2012, I set some goal that I needed to do. It’s time to have a look at what I achieve and what I still need to afford to reach it.
First, I graduated with a good grade. I can say that it met my requirement but I do not feel satisfied with it. I could do better but I was to stubborn to admit that I made mistake. Instead of fixing it, I tried to explain and protect my ideas. I failed to do it because even I myself knew that was wrong and mistakes must be fixed. That was not an unpredictable outcome after all. At the moment, I’m planning to fix it to make it better in order to have good reference in the future.
Second, I can say that I’m better at English than the past. Two aspects that improved the most are the confidence and fluency. That thanked to countless hours of speaking English with my friends. I still need to enrich the vocabulary. It’s fine with listening and reading but I face some difficulties while writing and speaking. I like learning language I won’t give up until I master it.
Third is about what I failed to achieve. To he honest, I don’t want to talk about it so I won’t write it down here. But I won’t forget. I’ll keep in mind and do my best so that I won’t have to face that problem again.
To summarize, I had a good time but I need to do more in order to get what I deserve to have.
Thank you for spending time reading it. Goodbye.
The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.
Here’s an excerpt:
600 people reached the top of Mt. Everest in 2012. This blog got about 2,400 views in 2012. If every person who reached the top of Mt. Everest viewed this blog, it would have taken 4 years to get that many views.
According to Cambridge Advanced Learner Dictionary, “rich” besides has the meaning of “having a lot of money”, it also has the meaning of “having a lot of valuable or useful things”. However, there are still a lot of people think that “rich” means “money”. They also attack the others’ opinion about “rich” verbally and non-verbally. Personally, I consider those people as pathetic pursuer of money, no more no less. I respect the others personal opinions but I can accept the idea of criticizing to protect their own ideas.
Having a lot of any useful things means you are rich, but you may wonder what useful things mean. I cannot answer that question specifically because there are too many things that are useful in our life. For example, knowledge, emotions, time, relationship… It depends on the situation that you are in to decide what you need, so if they are what you need, they are useful.
To some people, their most valuable property is their relationship. They are happy in making friends and hanging around to tighten it up. The others may treasure their time because they want to spend their life with their family, relatives or friends. Each person has his own idea about that.
For me, the most useful thing I need is knowledge. If I know and understand about the world thoroughly, I will be able to do anything I ever wanted to do. Knowledge can provide me money, time, relationship, fame and so on. Any step further, which I make, must base on that basic platform. In addition, I never want to be a loser in any aspects that I join with my own will, so I need to improve a lot to reach the goal that I set. I believe one day, my dreams will come true if I try hard enough.
Many people only understand how precious and valuable their lives are after being able to answer that question. Many of them also gain back the belief and start a new life because they realize their importance. Knowing the value and uniqueness helps them decide what they want to do and which path they should take to fulfill their wishes.
However, to me, this is one of the questions that I have not found the answer yet.
I do have many dreams, goals and desires that I want to fulfill but if fulfilling those is my reasons for living in this world.
Telling the truth, I do not think that I can achieve all of them. However, when I can reach my goals, I do not know what to do next. In addition, despite of being done by me or not, there are no difference will be created by my effort because none of mine goals are to bring change to this world.
I have neither a place to go back nor any persons to miss. In fact, I do not need them because to me, all of them are the burden that I do not want to carry, and they are obstructions on my way.
I know that I am difference and unique and I know my values. However, what to do with those values is still a big question to me now.I am always alone because I am walking in a different path to the others’, but no one has the ability of recognizing it. However, that loneliness provides me a lot of private space so I really enjoy it. Besides, my way of thinking is also difference from theirs, and I do not want anyone to become close to me, that is the reason why no one can truly understand me.
Yes, as I said, I will keep working and studying Maritime Profession no matter what happens. Some of my friends talked to me that they didn’t really want to join my current university’s department. They went to university because after studying, their parents (or their relatives) could possibly arrange for them a good offer. Some of them have their parents work for this industry so they can find a job in this field easier due to the relation they have. Most of them said that if they work on board, they perhaps work for ten years the most, and then they will apply for another job on shore. However, I won’t. I will be at sea for my entire life, until I retire or until there are no ships sail through the sea anymore.
Maybe, it was a fate that had already been decided. Four years ago, I chose this path by my own will but I didn’t have any clues about what I am supposed to do in the future. All I had in mind that time was how to get away from home as far as possible. While I was turning the pages of University Choosing Guideline, I found a piece of information about my current school. I immediately knew that what I was looking for and then applying for this department without any hesitation. I can say it my destined career.
At first, I was always worried that if I was suitable for this job. By the passing of time, I realize that I somehow like it. I also have other hobbies like learning about science, computer or IT. I like them but I don’t think I can make any big difference, but I found them right inside navigation. I like English; I have to study English a lot here. I like computer and technology; I can use a lot of modern equipment once I work on board. I want to be somewhere far away; I can travel around the world but no one can contact me if I don’t want them to do so. All my wishes can be fulfilled and I don’t wish for anything better than that. I can’t find any reason so as not to do this job.
I do not deny that my job has a lot of disadvantages. However they don’t matter to me. I’m going to graduate soon I will try my best to achieve what I desire and deserve to have.
In our life, we have heard a lot of songs, poems and stories about how beautiful the love is. Those are the works of many writers, poets, and composers… from the famous one to the unknown authors. All of them always worship what they call the gift from God. However, I do not think love is good. In addition, in my opinion, love is a harsh test of God that anyone who falls in it will fail everything. Here are my reasons for it.
Firstly, love is a waste of time in any way from young love to old love. You may love your family; you miss them when you are apart. In order to cure that homesickness, you may call them every week, or even everyday; you spend hours on talking on the phone with them. It is the same with your love to your girlfriend/boyfriend. You spend a lot of time on talking with her/him to maintain your love. You need time to find out what to buy for a gift in some occasions. You spend time on worrying about some bullshit problems of each other. I cannot see any benefit of doing all that. Time is invaluable. With that precious time, you should do something more useful like reading a good book, review your work or do some outside activities. That is a better way on using time.
Secondly, love only brings sadness to human. You may have watched many movies, read many stories about a love with happy-ending but have you ever thought those were just the creation of fabulous dreams that will never come true? Have you ever thought that they only create the things that we lack of the most? You may think you are happy right now. Will that happiness last long? Every party has an end because nothing will last forever. The end of happiness is definitely the sadness. Therefore, do not love if you do not want to be hurt.
Thirdly, love is a resistant force of your career. It may prevent you from further promotion. What will you do if your boss suggests you to become a leader of a branch but that branch is far away from home? You will move entire your family there, won’t you? If you have to go abroad for few months for business but your lover always complain about being apart. Will you accept the challenges and get the promotion or obey the order of your lover and let that chance slips out of your hand? Without any one to love or worry about, you can accept any chance of promotion or establish some operations that will bring you what you always dream of. All I want to say is to put aside all of those mess, be wise, be motivated, be ambitious, and go ahead to your success.
Love is barrier to your desire career goal. You have to overcome it to get to the victory. Don’t ever stop in front of that barrier. It’s really pity if you are as normal as the others. Forget it and try your best, you will have what you deserve to have.