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Where there is a will, there is a way.

I think I’ve found my ideal girl

Update 09/06/2019: I was wrong again. She’s not the one whom I can spend a lifetime comfortably with.

I’ve known her for a long time. She was my classmate since high school. During that time, I was in my adolescence, my stubbornness got me into to plenty trouble with teachers. My class was divided into 4 groups, and she was the head of my group. And that made us fought each other few times.

When we each entered university, we only met few times (if I’m not mistaken, only 2 times). That didn’t leave me much impression of her. After graduating from university, she initiated the contact between us again. Since then, we keep meeting and messaging each other in a regular basis. Due to that, I understand her much better and finally come to conclusion that she’s ideal girl that fits my criteria of a girlfriend.

She’s smart, charming in a simple way. She will attract your attention when talking to her. She knows how to find a subject that both of us can talk about. When she talked about things that I don’t know, and have no clue to keep the conversation going, she could keep the subject simple, easy to understand, so that I can join in, and give my opinion and comment. To summarize, she’s a great conversation partner.

She’s also share a lot of common interest with me. We often like same TV series, which she often recommends to me first. We share more or less same taste of music as well. We both like classical music, but she likes it mainly they are nice to listen to. I like classical but also I want to understand the meaning, the inspiration, to feel the music. We both like reading books but we have different priority in book’s genre. She likes to read about psychology, business, and self-help. Meanwhile, I prefer history, biography, technology and science. We both like traveling, though pretty much everybody like traveling, so not much to talk about it here.

We have difference as well, and they’re quite a lot. But instead of fighting to protect each person’s perspective, we think of each other’s difference fascinating, and always wanting to understand the reason behind that. Few small examples are that she like to go to coffee shop alone, I like to go with friends. I like to go to cinema alone, she prefers to have companions.

As a human, she’s not perfect. She’s her weakness as well. But I don’t want to dwell into it too much. So, let say, she’s not a very good cook but her cooking is decent. She has health problem but she’s always trying to be in best shape possible. And she can be bossy and walking a thin line to be a control freak.

Finally, although I think that she’s an ideal girl for me, I won’t let this relationship develop passed an intimate friendship. Because I have commitment issue, I don’t want to ruin and hurt another woman. I will keep it this way. It’s best for both of us.

Cost saving?

I’m going to talk about the cost saving measures in the company that I’m currently working for. Since it’s sensitive to discuss publicly about your company on the open web, I’ll not spell out the name of my company.

This is a period of fierce competition, and also the downturn of some industries. Thus, saving as much as possible within a company becomes an essential part of business strategy. It had to be company-wide, with closed cooperation and good information sharing between departments of one company. Without cooperation and sharing, everyone will only focus on their field, with tunnel vision for every decisions, cost saving will turn out to be very costly instead.

Once, the personnel and head of a department only focus on their respective definition of saving, the money that was saved in one will be spend on the others, often in greater amount. Because they simply don’t know and understand what is going on in the other rooms. You save one penny today, you’ll lose a pound tomorrow.

Thought on climate change and human natures

Currently, I’m reading few books about climate change, global warming, and environment-alter activities. It had dawned on me that despite the massive scope of the matters, the solutions, to the root, are very simple.

Climate change and global warming, we have to stop extracting and using fossil fuel. Manmade environment disasters can be solved by stopping using toxic chemicals. Just as what we did with tobacco industry. To avoid lung cancer and other diseases caused by smoking, we have to stop smoking, and ban second-hand smoking.

But as far as I can see, there are not a single global awareness and movement to stop climate change other manmade catastrophes. Why is that? From my perspective, that’s because we are fundamentally selfish. We have become so relied on fossil fuel and artificial chemicals that we just can’t give them up because it would cause short term setback and inconvenience.

We often say to ourselves an excuse that if we don’t do it, others will, and the result is just as the same. If we stop burning fossil fuel, we would have no electricity, no means of transport. We would freeze, or overheat, or stop working. We would no longer be able to taking care of ourselves and those whom we care for. In the mean time, others people who keep burning the fuel would advance and leave us in the dirt. I guess many people share that thought. But, how about all of us stop burning and extracting those carbon laden fuels altogether? In that case, no one can leap ahead with their dirty tactic; no one will be left behind due to their sacrifice.

In order to have a secured renewable energy sources, it often requires the cooperation of different nations to connect and share their excess energy. Let’s say for example, half of the earth always faces the sun, if solar power can be share across borders, there won’t be any need for any other need of electricity storage or other alternative sources. But that poses a problem. When one nation can control the energy of other nation(s), they often take advantage of it with various threats and demands. Here we are again, everybody’s for themselves again.

The same can be said about using toxic chemicals in our daily life. If just a potion of us stops using all chemical, those people would definitely end up on the side of the disadvantage and without major help from others, they would disappear and be replaced by those who place the benefit above all.

Selfishness and greediness turn people into monsters who care about no one but themselves, nothing but profit. In this day and age, when one’s success is often based on how much money he makes, other less visible matters seem less important. A basic dilemma of “out of sight, out of mind”.

I hope that we as human will continue to exist for long after this. That we can reach further into outer space just as we once reached to unknown seas. But as long as we can’t give up our selfishness and greediness, our next generation might not have a human habitable planet to live on.

I’m tired

I’m tired, I want to rest. I want a peaceful life. I don’t want to be back to work. I’m exhausted. But I need money to spend for my daily life.

Oh, what a life!

Know nothing experts

For the past weeks, there were few maritime accidents that lead to the cost of life and properties. And, as seeing the comments about the accidents of those who never swim more than 100 m from shore is the tipping point for me. They sound like they’re all maritime accident investigators. They talked, they argued about something that no one has any evident or clue about what happened. So, what’s going on here?

Since the boom of availability of internet, it had become the holy ground for all round know nothing experts. Many people start to give the opinion about things they don’t know. Worse, they started to defend their perspective with all of their passion. They refused being wrong, they harassed other if they found any mistakes in the argument, they changed the direction of the talk when enough evident was given, or not unlikely, they put words into others’ mouths. So what are the reasons behind this social phenomenon?

First, the easy access to the world knowledge. Almost everything one needs to know is available with few quick searches on Google. It makes many people feel that they know everything. It also helps to build up the laziness to dig deep into something in order to understand it better. This leads to ignorance. When they think they have enough understanding to undermine others’ ideas.

Second, people tend to become more aggressive when they are on the internet. The anonymity, the social distance, the monologues… Those are just a few factors that make people to behave differently once they are on the internet. They now can go all out without worrying about any consequences that might occur to them if they did that in real life.

Third, more and more industries are operated out of sight and out of mind of normal people. They silently do their business in the shadow of others’ awareness. Many achievements are taken for granted. For example, do normal people know how their goods travel over the vast sea to reach their country and to be delivered to their door? Or more closed to who’s using internet, do they know on what basis our computers are connected together to form the vast internet? I think most of them don’t know about it. For them, nowadays, it just works. The world’s system had become too complicated to get a grasp in every corners. It’s kind of sad, though.

To be clear, I’m not an expert either. The above is just my opinion. I have to write it down to relieve my mind from that upsetting thought. Thank you for reading.

See you next time.

A trip with my friend

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We have been closed friends for few years but we have never actually spend a lot of time together. We keep day to day contract via electronic means. Sometime, hanging out at coffee shop. But last weekend, finally we went together to a popular tourist attraction. Because of that, I’m even surer that she is my precious friend that I can’t afford to lose.

On the first day, in the morning, we rode to a distanced tourist spot. We took the wrong turn but in the end we got there. It’s not a very special place, but the experience we had a long the way is fun. In the afternoon, we visited a wonderful coffee shop. It’s beautiful, quiet and peaceful. The flower above is from that coffee shop. In the evening, we spend whole night talking and walking around the city central square.

On the second day, we visited few other picturesque places. Having meals, and more coffee shops. In the evening, we spend a lot of time talking and sharing thoughts too. It was cold and windy. But that condition seemed to help us bond even better.

After that trip, I believe friendship between persons of different genders is possible. Since both of us doesn’t any other feeling toward each other except friend. We walked hand in hand, we hugged when it’s cold. But there is not even single spark happened.

To summarize: Traveling is great. And it’s even better if you go with your best friends.

The glowing sea

Sea SparkleHave you ever seen a glowing sea? That’s a magnificent magical scene that makes you feel like you’re about to enter fairy world.

Luckily, I had a chance to witness that at the middle of Atlantic for 2 days.

It started without any warning. When my ship was sailing across the ocean, it was almost midnight at that time, suddenly the tips of the waves began to emit faint blue light. I realized that something’s not normal happening. I went out to the bridge wing. Before my eyes, my ship was surround by a transparent blueish mass of water. I couldn’t believe my own eyes at first. I thought it was the light from the Moon. But there was no Moon. I looked back to the wakes created by the ship’s propeller, the light extend well beyond along with the turbulent. Just like the flame behind the rocket.

It was so beautiful. It was like many scene in fantasy movies about ships travelling into unknown. At that time, I wished I would enter a new world, too.

But, sadly, this phenomenon is usually created by the excessive growth of micro bio organisms. Whose bloom of population is often related to pollution. For more information, you can easily do a quick search around the internet. I won’t get into details here.

I hope that, someday, I will be able to see it again, but not because our trash pollutes the sea. A scene that made me both amazed and eerie. See you next time.

2015 in review

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 2,400 times in 2015. If it were a cable car, it would take about 40 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.

An irresistible feeling

heart-shaped-leafFor long, I have not felt this way toward a girl. I’ve been always focus on my career, my learning. I’ve kept thinking that love is an unnecessary burden that I never want to carry. But, it seems that things don’t always go your way. Slowly and steadily, the feeling for her develope. Each time I meet her, I see in her something I need, I want from my ideal girlfriend. I subconsciously like to be with her. I get jealous when she’s with other men.

First I have to say that she is not very beautiful. By the appearance, she’s a normal looking girl. But, she does show charm when she puts up a light make up. So, I guess that appearance doesn’t matter anymore.

Let’s see what make me attracted to her.

She is intelligent and independent. Yep, I’m attracted to girls who can think and do thing by themselves. I love to take care of them, protect them. But I will soon feel tired when I’m being relied too much. I’m also not a perfect person. Sometime, I do want to receive a helping hand or an advice. And I see it in her. Someone I want to look after. Also someone I want to lie my head down onto her thigh, with she gently strokes my hair.

Beside, she is thorough and careful. Who would not like a careful person? Not me, obviously. This characteristic of her makes me feel at ease and worried-free. For example, whenever we went somewhere far. What is the means of transport, where we should rest, where we should not go and many more were planned and discussed among us carefully in advance. Even, if I forget some emergency medicine, I know that she has them with her.

Moreover, she is a good listener. Talking to her is so wonderful. I can feel that she is paying attention to my story when I talk, she gives honest comments. The way she talks is subtle. She claimed that she is hot temper. But I don’t feel uncomfortable even when she talks with anger. I can talk and listen to her for hours without being bored.

But, above all, she is too precious for me to lose. She has been my friends for almost 15 years. That friendship is priceless and I don’t want to do anything that might harm it. Although it’s painful, I will bury that feeling deep down inside my head, and hope that time will ease the pain.

Creating a desired outcome with just willpower?

Mind-PowerHave you ever wished for something to happen and it came true? Probably most of you do have some experience about that. And, I have, too. It makes me wonder how our brains can alter the world to our desire? What is the method our brains use to interact with the world?

As a child, like many other children, I watched a lot of cartoons, and superhero movies. It implanted in my mind the idea and I always dreamed of the ability to control things by using my mind. I thought it was wonderful to have that kind of ability and I was positive I could make the world a better place if I had it.

Even, I’m no longer a child, sometime, I still wish that I had had that ability.

But, by the time, I have experienced, rarely, that I could somehow influence the outcome if I wish for it strongly. Though I don’t know how much it required to make one come true. For example, I was late for a bus, and I wished that the bus was late, so that I could go there on time. And it came true. Or another time, I hated one person, so I wished for him to never come back. And he disappear from the employee list. Or, the nearest incident was that I was tired and wanted to go home. but if my ship had continued with the preliminary plan, I would not have been able to come back for at least 3 months. So I wished for another plan. The plan was canceled, and I flew home from the next port.

There’s not a single reason that I can say that it’s not wonderful. But, if that ability came true, I don’t know what would happen to the world. What will happen when one mind interfere with other? When each person wishes for different thing, that might lead to the contradiction between the idea, how would we solve that? Honestly, I don’t know the answer for any questions above. I still can’t think of any either.

So, is it better to have or not to have that ability? It’s up to yours opinion.