The reasons why I do not need love.

In our life, we have heard a lot of songs, poems and stories about how beautiful the love is. Those are the works of many writers, poets, and composers… from the famous one to the unknown authors. All of them always worship what they call the gift from God. However, I do not think love is good. In addition, in my opinion, love is a harsh test of God that anyone who falls in it will fail everything. Here are my reasons for it.

Firstly, love is a waste of time in any way from young love to old love. You may love your family; you miss them when you are apart. In order to cure that homesickness, you may call them every week, or even everyday; you spend hours on talking on the phone with them. It is the same with your love to your girlfriend/boyfriend. You spend a lot of time on talking with her/him to maintain your love. You need time to find out what to buy for a gift in some occasions. You spend time on worrying about some bullshit problems of each other. I cannot see any benefit of doing all that. Time is invaluable. With that precious time, you should do something more useful like reading a good book, review your work or do some outside activities. That is a better way on using time.

Secondly, love only brings sadness to human. You may have watched many movies, read many stories about a love with happy-ending but have you ever thought those were just the creation of fabulous dreams that will never come true? Have you ever thought that they only create the things that we lack of the most? You may think you are happy right now. Will that happiness last long? Every party has an end because nothing will last forever. The end of happiness is definitely the sadness. Therefore, do not love if you do not want to be hurt.

Thirdly, love is a resistant force of your career. It may prevent you from further promotion. What will you do if your boss suggests you to become a leader of a branch but that branch is far away from home? You will move entire your family there, won’t you? If you have to go abroad for few months for business but your lover always complain about being apart. Will you accept the challenges and get the promotion or obey the order of your lover and let that chance slips out of your hand? Without any one to love or worry about, you can accept any chance of promotion or establish some operations that will bring you what you always dream of. All I want to say is to put aside all of those mess, be wise, be motivated, be ambitious, and go ahead to your success.

Love is barrier to your desire career goal. You have to overcome it to get to the victory. Don’t ever stop in front of that barrier. It’s really pity if you are as normal as the others. Forget it and try your best, you will have what you deserve to have.

Three wishes.

When we were children, we used to listen to many fairy tales, and a lot of them were about three wishes that were given by the angels. Surely, those stories helped to build up our hearts and souls. And have you ever wished to have those three wishes? I have. And if there were angels, and they could possibly give us three wishes, what would you tell them? Well then, these are my wishes:

The first wish, I would wish for intelligence. I want to be more intelligent, cleverer, and more creative. I put it in the first place because I love knowledge, I am always curious about the world, how it works, how it changes, how it ends… I also like to read news and books about new technologies, new materials, new inventions… I want to create new things and to be good at my professional. I need to be intelligent to do all of them.

The second wish is about ability. In order to make the first wish become realizable in real life, I need the ability that help me to  make my ideas come true. I heard many stories about very clever people but they’re not successful because they can’t achieve their potentials to get what they want. I definitely don’t want to be like them. I know a brilliant brain requires outstanding skills to make everything I think come true.

The third wish is for language ability. I want to be able to use English as naturally as native speakers are. Perhaps you may think that with intelligence I will be able to use English as well as I want. However, in my opinion, even in that case, English is only a foreign language to me; it cannot be my second language. Therefore, if it is possible, I want it to become my second language besides my mother tongue. With it, I may have a wide entrance to the human knowledge, and be able to satisfy my hunger for it. I have already had materials, now I just need English for the glue to mix them up.

Everyone has his own desires he would wish. Those above are wishes that I always wish that one day they would come true.

I wish you well with your life and career. Thank you and goodbye.

My favorite type of coffee shops.

One of my favorite drinks is coffee, or more precisely it is white coffee. It’s a very popular drink nowadays in my country and in the world. That sweet brown tasty liquid helps me start a new day with a good mood and high concentration on working. Slowly enjoying it without thinking of anything is also one of my habits.

So, what type of coffee shop do you like to go to? Every of you may have many choices but now I’m going to tell you about my favorite one. I’m not going to tell exactly its name because every coffee shop that meets my requirements can be in my favorite list.

First, at that coffee shop, I must be able to access the Internet through Wi-Fi. I often go there with my laptop alone so I usually do not have anyone to talk with (actually, I don’t like to talk with anyone there). Also, seating there without doing anything or having no means of entertainment is very boring. With my computer, I can visit many websites, read some books or newspapers, listen to some pieces of music, or watch some short movies or video clips. That’s how I entertain with my laptop.

Second, that coffee shop should play smooth jazz or classical instead of modern pop. I really love classical and jazz. Listening to them make me feel relaxed. They also help me focus while doing my job. Talking about pop music, I like Westlife, Backstreet Boys or Michael Learns to Rock so it’s no problem if a coffee shop plays their songs. But I really hate the generation of singers or bands from last 5 years till now. The rhythms, the lyrics and their voice are awful. So, it’d better to not to listen to them.

Third, that coffee shop should be a quiet place. I love quiet atmosphere and I go there to relax, enjoy my life and sometime work, not to hear the gossips or the grumbles from the others. That’s the reason why I do like go there alone in order to make no noise, and I expect the others keep silence so as not to bother me. If one of my favorite coffee shop becomes noisy, I will definitely abandon it.

Well, there are some more factors that affect my choice of favorite coffee shop but three requirements that I’ve just mentioned are in the first priority of choosing. The others just act as a minor part of it and there is no need to tell it here.

Hope you enjoy reading my post.

Thank you and goodbye!

I want to be creative.

As a student, I always want to create new ideas, make new things, or invent some cool stuffs. I love the feeling of successful solving problem. It’s the satisfaction, the release from burdens, a comfortable relief. Thinking of a new idea, finding a solution for it, achieving it, getting the result make me feel alive.

But, now, I have to face that my creation ability is decreasing a little by the time. I have very few new goals, I found a lot of trouble in a contest requiring the creation. Even my ability of imagination is getting worse. I can’t draw a picture of a complicated objects inside my mind like before.

I don’t really know the causes of all those handicaps. I read a lot, from newspapers, magazines, novels to science books, I read much more than before. However, it was difficult for me to think of a topic to write this post. My university requires us to make a practical idea that can be useful for our major and be executed in real life. Unfortunately, after over a half day, I haven’t still had any ideas yet.

I hope you understand my circumstance by now. I don’t really know where this obstacle originates in, so I’m not sure on how to get rid off this problem. I’ll try finding a method to be more creative on the web. To be honest, do all of their advice is impossible but I can’t think of any reasons why I shouldn’t listen to them. I hope I can find a suitable method for myself.

Thank you for reading. Goodbye!

Some thoughts at the beginning of the year.

At first, happy new year!

When I was a child, my parents never taught me directly about the importance of a successful career, but during the childhood, I recognized that all of our family’s conflicts were caused by the disappointments of my father in his life. These originated from his lack of ability to bring wealthy to his family.

At the moment, the more books I read, the clearer I see about this problem.

First, from ancient age, men were the forces who bring income in. So are they nowadays. Although men and women are more equal than the past, the perspective about the pocket of a man still remains the same. The thicker and deeper pocket he has, the more successful and respectful he is. For example, you can see the way everyone looks at a man when he spends a large amount of money on buying a luxurious car is much different when they see a man who is bargaining to buy a shirt. Or giving a lot of money to a charity organization can give them some honor that normal people can’t have. Of course, I only mention about the money that’s earned legally.

Second, I want to mention about knowledge. A rich man without knowledge is just like a fool whom other people laugh at and always try to take his property. Knowledge I meant here is about general knowledge and professional knowledge. General knowledge helps you talk and discuss about daily topic. Professional knowledge helps you let the others know not to mess with you with your major.

Third, I’d like to talk about the social rank. It’s not necessary to be president to gain a high social rank. What I mean here is about people’s respect for you. Your colleagues, your neighbors, your friends – their admire is enough. Your opinion can earn much more weight than the others’.

Well, maybe you have recognized this post looks like a mess with no clear purpose of posting. I think so, too. I’ll try not to create any post like this anymore.

Thanks for reading. Goodbye!

2011 in review

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2011 annual report for this blog.

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A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 1,100 times in 2011. If it were a cable car, it would take about 18 trips to carry that many people.

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I don’t like war.

Because of a bundle of military action at this time, many people believe that a new World War is coming near. I do. However, I totally don’t like it at all. Here are some of my reasons for this dislike.

Firstly, war means a lot of people will die or be injured, much more people will be suffered from the deaths of their family members, their relatives, their lovers, their friends… And there are also a lot of people will be affected by the remains after the war.

Secondly, war will destroy our achievements in construction, culture and other fields, which were built up and developed by numerous talents through many generations. A beautiful building or a magnificent bridge can turn into a heap of rubbish. I do not want it to happen, definitely.

Thirdly, only evils want war happen. War will cost us a lot of money, and we usually need decades to pay all our debts, which originated during the war. We plan and spend money on killing people who are human like us. Then our children will have to focus their effort of recover the wounds caused by us. I cannot think of any animals can do such evil actions like what human do.

I hope there will be no war in this world forever.

I am a bad guy.

Well, I have two characteristics that some of you and I hate them the most, they are enviousness and selfishness. Actually, these are covered by my carefree gestures because they shouldn’t be shown off.

First, I want to talk about the enviousness. I always want to have everything that the others have, and inside my mind, some bad thoughts are about to appear.  For example, if I see a student bring an awesome laptop such as MacBook Pro, I may think that guy just bought it because he wants to impress other people, not because he loves it and knows how to take the most benefit from that Mac. Or when I see a beautiful girl goes along with a normal boy. I usually think that girl only date with that boy because she wants his money.

I know. Enviousness is totally not good. To avoid it, I try to think “That’s none of my business.” and “Why should I envy?” to get me out of that train of thought. I’m trying to get rid of this characteristic to make myself be better.

Second, I’m going to mention the selfishness. I am supposed to be helpful and friendly. Actually, I don’t do anything if its after-effects can harm my right. Like, when my friend borrows money or other stuff, I often think and assess him carefully to find out if he would pay to give it back to me. If I believe that I can’t trust him, I will find a logical reason to deny his request.

At first, I think that in many cases, I’m selfish because it’s for my own good. However, now, I understand if I continue being like this, I will be alone sooner or later.

It’s a shame to have to confess those things. I hope after speaking it out I will become better and better day by day.

Thanks for reading. Goodbye!

What would you do if your girlfriend doesn’t like your job?

Today, during the evening English class, one of my friends was asked that question. He was unable to answer it, and he said that question was too personal. I think the reason he couldn’t answer is he rarely thought about that situation. In my opinion, if she forces me to choose one of her and my job, I will choose my job. Here are some reasons for that choice:

- First, it’s really hard to find out someone you love, but it’s even more difficult to find a job that you like. Everyone usually has only one job that he loves. If you have to choose another, obviously you will not like it like the old one. Working in an environment that you dislike, it will make you stress and tired. Someday, it will knock you down. About girls, if you break with a girl, you can easily find another one to replace.

- Second, I’ll talk about the outsider’s perspective. As you know, people usually judge a man base on his career. If he is not successful, many people will look down on him. I’m sure some of his closest friends, relatives, or even his girlfriend will do look down on him. Even though, she is the one who told him to turn his path to be with her. We cannot know. If he fails in his career, even though he loves it, I can say that he was unlucky that time, and I will advise him to try to do it again.

- Third, if she loves you, she may know what is the best for you. She will try not to bother you and she will not require you to choose. If she does so, I can say she is selfish. She just thinks of her own happiness. She doesn’t care about anyone else. In that situation, you already know which the right choice is. No one blames on you for making such a decision.

So, to summarize, as a man, your career, your success must be put in first priority. Everything else should be in their right position. And that position is your background.

Am I awake or dreaming?

I don’t really aware of that problem. I don’t know that I am living a real life with real people and real relationships or I am sleeping somewhere else and dreaming about a long story that I don’t know the ending.

I am here. I am talking to you. I have family and friends, and I have good relationships with other people. I am studying well I’ve gained a lot of respect from my classmates. Like others, I have to face the loss of my friends and relatives. I feel the pain and I also get hurt. However, is it really my true self? There is a possibility that it is an imaginary world I’ve created inside my mind, isn’t it? How can I prove that this world is real?

I always feel that I am not actually living. I have a sense of being a blur image of someone else. I have been had this thought for a long time ago, since I was a little child as I remember. My existence seems meaningless to the others because I don’t think I really exist. I have no clue to confirm it but my sixth sense always talks to me that I need to wake up; this dream is going to end soon.

Why am I still here? Probably, I’m afraid of waking up in an unfamiliar world. I will likely have amnesia. At that time, in my head, only the memories which I had while sleeping may remain. Having a new life in a totally strange world is definitely very difficult. That is the only certain reason I can think of to explain about rejecting escaping this dream.

I want to both wake up and sleep. However, to solve this problem, I have to choose one. Have I put enough effort to do that? Maybe no! In addition, this isn’t right time and right place to attempt it. In one day, I will do it. How? I don’t exactly know. But I’ll try.

Thanks for reading! Goodbye!